Why You Still Feel Tied to Someone You Let Go Of 🤍

So, you blocked them.
You deleted the messages.
You saged your entire house, maybe even did a cord-cutting spell under the full moon, and yet… they still pop into your mind like they’ve got a spare key to your soul.

Let’s be real. Letting go isn’t just about what you do physically.
It’s about what still lingers energetically and emotionally.

This post is for you if you’ve done “everything right” but still feel that damn pull.

1. Energetic bonds don’t snap just because you said you’re done

When we love someone, especially deeply, we create energetic cords. These cords form through emotion, intention, intimacy, even repeated thoughts. You can leave someone, but if you’re still replaying conversations, stalking their socials, or wondering “what if”… the cord is still active.

2. Your nervous system got used to them

That’s not just your heart missing them. It’s your body craving the emotional chaos it got used to. When you’ve been in a push-pull dynamic, your brain gets addicted to the highs and lows. So even when they’re gone, your system still scans for that familiar energy.

3. They might still be thinking of you

And yes, sometimes you feel them because they are thinking about you. Energy doesn’t lie. If someone’s pulling on your field or sending thoughts your way, you’ll feel it — especially if you’re an empath or intuitive (which I know most of you reading this are).

4. Part of you still wants closure… or revenge

Let’s be honest. Sometimes you’re not stuck on the person, you’re stuck on the pain. The unanswered questions. The way they made you feel small. The part of you that wants to rewrite the ending so you come out on top. That energy can keep you just as tied as love.

5. You haven’t filled the space they used to take up

It’s not just about removing them. It’s about replacing the role they played. That comfort, the attention, the escape. If you don’t fill that space consciously, your energy will naturally reach back toward what was there before. Even if it was toxic.

💥 So what actually helps?

– Daily energetic hygiene. Salt baths, grounding, cord-clearing. Call your energy back and mean it.
– Radical honesty. Admit what you’re really still holding onto. Name it so you can release it.
– Redirect your focus. Channel that obsession into something for you. Create, write, move, purge.
– Cut cords with compassion, not bitterness. Bitterness keeps you tied. Forgiveness frees you.
– Stop checking their energy. Every time you “just check” their page or pull a card about them, you reattach. Close the portal.

Letting go isn’t one spell, one night, one moment.
It’s a choice you keep making until your energy finally catches up with the truth:

You deserve better.
You’re not stuck.
And you’re not crazy for still feeling them… but you can release them.

💌 Ready to break the cycle for good?

If this post hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it.
And if you’re tired of repeating the same patterns and want real change, check out my life coaching sessions. This isn’t about readings or hoping they’ll come back. This is about you reclaiming your energy and building the life you actually want.

You’re not crazy.
You’re not weak.
You’re just healing , and healing gets messy.

But the fact that you’re even reading this means some part of you is done settling.
Done holding on to half-hearted love.
Done dimming your light to stay connected.

So take a breath.
Pull your energy back.
And remember who the fuck you are.

This isn’t about them anymore.
It’s about you. Finally choosing you.

🫶🏼 Betty Pestana 🫶🏼